Not everything is meant to last, including relationships. Sometimes, when you entered a new relationship, it might not always work and you ended up having a breakup. It’s normal to feel hurt or sad during this time. However, instead of drowning yourself in a pool of sadness or try to avoid it like it never happened, there are a few things you could do instead to achieve better results. Here is how to get over a breakup like a lady.
1. Let your emotions out in healthy way
The first thing you want to do after breakup is to let your emotion out in a healthy way. To restrict your emotion and pretend you are okay when you are not will only hurt you further. Cry it out or talk to someone you can trust who would give you the emotional support you need. Never lie to yourself and feel what you need to feel.
2. Figure Out Why It Did Not Work Out
Make a list of the things that happened in the past which became the reason why things did not work out. Only you know the reason why. Do not blame anyone, just accept it and understand that everything happened for a reason. If you did not end up with him, then perhaps there is someone better in the future for you. Burn the list once you are done and let your heart free.
3. Cut off or Limit Contact with Him
The last thing you want to do is to maintain any contact with your ex, at least for a while. It’s better for you to cut him off from your life altogether until you are sure you’re over him. We never recommend you to stay friends with an ex because it might trigger something back in you, however if this idea doesn’t sit well with you, at least cut him off temporarily until you’re better.
4. Get Yourself Busy with Productive Things
Some might call it distraction but it actually works really well. This is the best time to focus on other things in your life, whether it’s your career, hobby, family or doing something you have never done before. You may even want to start a new side hustle during this time. The possibilities are endless and you will feel so much better knowing that you are still living a productive life despite the breakup.
5. Hang out with your girlfriends
During these difficult time, you’ll need more support from your female friends now than ever. Make sure you’re within a genuine circle of female friends who would shower you with empathy and emotional support. You can have some girls’ night out together or other fun activities. Being around others will slowly help you to get away from the thought of the breakup.
6. Find Ways to Give Yourself Some Care
Self-care is always important, especially after a breakup. Whether it’s having an entire day for yourself, a spa day or a solo travel to the shopping center, it’s always a good idea to treat and show yourself some love.
7. Meet New People
This should be done only when you already feel like it to prevent any cases of rebound. Make sure you are mentally strong enough to start meeting new people again. Once you do this, it’s so much easier to move on. If you want to you can apply the rooster dating techniques to increase your chances of finding the right man who is serious about you and the relationship.
Those were some ways on how to get over a breakup as a lady. The most important thing to do now is to have compassion for yourself and understand that time heal. Ending things with him is not the end of the world. You can level up and find someone better than him or learn how to be happy by yourself. Regardless, you’ll be fine.
