If you’ve watched the Netflix show Tinder Swindler, you’ll know the mess the women had to go through after getting themselves involved with Simon Leviev.
If you haven’t watched it and somehow found this article, we’ll explain briefly what it’s about. This swindler, Simon Leviev whose real name is Shimon Yehuda Hayut, claimed himself as an heir to LLD Diamond and scammed women on tinder for money. The victims began to speak up against him and published their stories on social media and news platform.
There were plenty of valuable lessons that we as women could take from this Netflix documentary. So here are some lessons from Tinder Swindler we can learn.
1. Never Give a Man Money in The Relationship
The first rule of high value dating is that a woman should never give a man money in the relationship. Especially if he claims to be a wealthy man. Think about it, a genuine wealthy man will have his own source of income, networks and methods if he ever needs a loan. He will never ask money from you, who’s seen as his love interest / partner. Most importantly, never take a loan for a man. It never ends well.
2. Not All That Glitter is Gold
Appearance can be really deceiving. A man who seems too flashy or flamboyant are the most suspicious kind to begin with. As women, we should not judge a man solely on his appearance alone. It’s important to understand that a real wealthy man won’t find the need to constantly flash his wealth to you especially since the first date.
3. Learn to Love Yourself First and Set Boundaries
We don’t want to fall into the victim blaming narrative. However, we have to admit that the women on this show has shown some desperate behavior for love and they lacked boundaries. From the perpetrator’s eyes, they made the perfect victim. It’s important that we, as women, practice self-love and set boundaries. We should feel content and satisfied with ourselves regardless of our relationship status. Never show desperate behavior especially toward your potential partner because he might see it as a chance to exploit you and your sincerity.
4. Beware of Love Bombing
Love bombing is real and it’s dangerous. In this case, Simon was a smooth talker who was really good with his words. If you just meet a man recently and he already declare his love for you, he might be love bombing you. He will act like you’re the love of his life within days of knowing each other and whisper sweet nothings in your ears. He might show grandiose acts to impress you but it seems blatantly excessive. Practice awareness and protect yourself from getting love bombed.
5. Safety Comes First
Another mistake these women made were giving their personal information, such as their passport, home address, phone numbers and other important documents too soon. One woman in particular headed on a private jet with him within weeks of knowing each other. It’s dangerous because you don’t know who you’re actually dealing with. Human and sex trafficking is real and it starts with something like this. Always be safe and maintain your distance in the beginning of the relationship until you truly trust this person.
6. Learn to Vet Men
Last but not least, we should all learn how to vet men. These days with social media and everything, you never really know who you’re dealing with. Make sure that you’re doing a background check on the man you’re dating, especially if he makes big claims that seems too good to be true. Don’t just check their social media accounts, but do an actual research on them. With the internet, anything is possible.
Those were some lessons from Tinder Swindler we can all learn from. Ladies, remember if something is too good to be true, it probably is. Always be safe and protect yourself from preying eyes.
